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Let’s dive in quickly to today’s episode
It’sa tale of love at first sight. Love by the well side. Typical chivalry sweeping her off her feet.
Moses had fled Egypt and was at the well in Midian when Zipporah and her sisters came to fetch water.
Bullies have always been in existence from time immemorial. But Moses was there to save the day on that occasion. He rescued Jethro’s daughters (seven of them) from the bullying shepherds, drew water for them and even watered their flocks.
But these ladies lived in a time when the response to chivalry wasn’t to oblige the man. Or maybe because Moses was all clad as an Egyptian (and they were Midianites). Whichever the case, they left Moses at the well and headed home to their father.
Their father quickly asked them to invite him to dinner and by the next verse, Moses was already living with them, marrying Zipporah and having a baby with her.
The speed of the sequence of events amuses me. Makes me want to ask the writer of Exodus “Bros, why the rush? Give us some details please na!“
Anyways.. trust me to do some research. And I did the research o! And found nothing! Nada!
So we go by what the scriptures tell us.
Zipporah was one of 7 sisters, all daughters of the Priest of Midian. All of them were rescued by Moses, but Zipporah got the man. How much jealousy must she have had to deal with amongst her sisters.
Ladies, you know that feeling now. The newest guy in town, fresh and handsome, strong and macho. Every woman’s dream. That was Moses. Remember, he was once an Egyptian Prince. He probably had multiple tales and stories of his prowess in Egypt. Tales of his experiences in the palace.
And then, of all the ladies that could get this fine Bobo, it’s the girl whose name means “bird” (yeah, Zipporah actually means bird).
Their union was such a peculiar one. I sense that they didn’t get along well. Just like most love-at-first-sight marriages, the butterfly feelings disappear quickly and the shortcomings overwhelm the relationship.
I’m inclined to put some blame on Moses. Remember he was a very spiritual person but sadly, he wasn’t the best at interpersonal relationships. Moses handled delegating responsibilities poorly, he even chickened out when God called him to public speaking, he had anger issues, etc. I feel he wasn’t the perfect husband either. Little wonder Zipporah’s reaction at the incident at “the inn“
As Moses and his family were traveling along and had stopped for the night (in an inn), Jehovah appeared to Moses and threatened to kill him. Then Zipporah his wife took a flint knife and cut off the foreskin of her young son’s penis, and threw it against Moses’ feet, remarking disgustedly, “What a blood-smeared husband you’ve turned out to be!” Then God left him alone.Exodus 4:24-25 TLB
There is so much controversy as to the meaning of the events here, but the emphasis I’m drawing is on Zipporah’s response- What a blood smeared husband you’ve turned out to be. (KJV says a bloody husband)
The religious tension that existed in that marriage was palpable. Here was Zipporah, daughter a heathen priest, married to Moses, prophet of the living God. She probably didn’t understand the meaning or the need for circumcision, or any of the spiritual encounters Moses had. It was an unequally yoked marriage. I’m not so surprised that they didn’t live together for long.
After Moses had sent away his wife Zipporah, his father-in-law Jethro received herExodus 18:2 NIV
Was it the work of the ministry that was so much? Or was it the anger issues? Or was it the religious differences? Or any of the one thousand and one reasons that makes couples disagree. Whatever the reason, Moses had sent Zipporah back to her father, as well as her two kids with her.
What kind of man was Moses on the homefront? We may never know. But when you put it all in perspective, it makes sense.
Abandoned from a young age by his biological mother (due to circumstances beyond her control of course), constantly facing rejection in the Palace whilst growing up as an Egyptian-Israeli Prince, the conflict of coming to know his real identity, the guilt of killing an Egyptian, the burden of responsibility of carrying a nation of grumblers on his shoulders, his not-so-supportive siblings; I dare say that Moses had a fair share of personal problems. Nonetheless, this was no excuse for his marital issues.
Unfortunately, Zipporah bore the brunt.
Sisters, i pray for you at this juncture, that may you not bear the brunt of a man’s life problems in Jesus name.
It begs to reason, though, that despite the strains in his marriage, Moses’ relationship with his father-in-law was quite beautiful.
So Moses went out to meet his father-in-law and bowed down and kissed him. They greeted each other and then went into the tent. Moses told his father-in-law about everything the Lord had done to Pharaoh and the Egyptians for Israel’s sake and about all the hardships they had met along the way and how the Lord had saved them. Jethro was delighted to hear about all the good things the Lord had done for Israel in rescuing them from the hand of the Egyptians. He said, “Praise be to the Lord, who rescued you from the hand of the Egyptians and of Pharaoh, and who rescued the people from the hand of the Egyptians. Now I know that the Lord is greater than all other gods, for he did this to those who had treated Israel arrogantly.”Exodus 18:7-11 NIV
It was during this visit of Jethro to Moses in the wilderness that Jethro gave him one of the best counsels ever, division of labour; and Moses listened and took that counsel
Moses listened to his father-in-law and did everything he said. He chose capable men from all Israel and made them leaders of the people, officials over thousands, hundreds, fifties and tens. They served as judges for the people at all times. The difficult cases they brought to Moses, but the simple ones they decided themselves.Exodus 18:24-26 NIV
I sense that Moses knew that Zipporah was a good woman, and hence, though they didn’t get along well, he respected her in his own way, by respecting her father.
Was this right? Was it appropriate? Definitely not.
My heart goes out to every woman who is a Zipporah and is in love with, or married to a Moses, or intending to get into a relationship with one.
Every man is a Moses in a way. Baggage upon baggage of emotional issues locked deeply inside in that macho build. It is never in your power to change the man. That’s the Holy Spirit’s job and if you commit that man to Him, He will change him for good.Pst. ‘Femi
Puah and Shiprah, the midwives, defied Pharaoh and delivered many expectant mothers of Israel. Jochebed must have been one of those women and with the arrival of Moses, she protected him with every thing she had. But soon she had to let him go, and then, Miriam stood as a watchman, an intercessor, till Moses landed in the safe hands of Pharaoh’s daughter, who nurtured him through opposition and against all odds. All these women prepared the man for his wife, Zipporah, a bird whose feathers continued to carry her man through his ministry, and to protect her children.
Be you a deliverer, a protector, a watchman, an intercessor, a nurturer, a carry-er, or a mother, You’re Special, Sister.
Live your life to the fullest!
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